Instead of trying to stop your dog’s unwanted behaviors, teach them what to do instead.
Why “Stop That!” and “No!” Don’t Work: Flipping the Script on Dog Behavior
As humans, we’re wired to notice the things we don’t like. That’s true in everyday life, and it’s especially true when we’re raising a puppy or adult dog. When your puppy jumps up, chews the table leg, or barks at the mail carrier, your instinct might be to stop it right now.
But here’s the truth: trying to stop behavior doesn’t teach your dog what they should be doing.
When we say “No!” or “Stop it!” we’re reacting to something that’s already happening. In that moment, our dog might pause out of surprise or confusion, but that doesn’t lead to learning. And it definitely doesn’t lead to long-term change.
The Real Learning Happens Through Reinforcement
Dogs do what works. If jumping up gets attention, even if it’s scolding, it might be worth repeating from your dog’s perspective. But if sitting quietly results in treats, praise, or petting, suddenly that becomes the better option.
So instead of asking, How do I stop my dog from jumping?
Try asking, What would I like my dog to do instead?
That’s the mindset shift that creates real results.
Examples of the Flip
- Jumping Up → Reinforce four paws on the floor or sitting for greetings
- Barking at the door → Reinforce going to a mat or checking in with you
- Chewing the furniture → Reinforce chewing on appropriate toys
Once you identify the behavior you do want, you can make it rewarding and easy for your dog to choose that option.
Why It Matters
When we focus only on what we don’t want, we end up frustrated, and so do our dogs. But when we flip our perspective and teach our dogs what works, we build trust, reduce confusion, and create better behavior without conflict.
And the best part? Dogs love to get it right. They want to be part of the family. Your job is to help them understand how.
Final Thought:
You don’t need to control every move your dog makes—you just need to teach the right ones and make those rewarding.
Need help flipping the script with your dog? Let’s work together to build behaviors you’ll both feel good about.